Trust… don’t we all want to be trusted? Whether it is a teenager who wants their parents to trust them by giving them more curfew time, or a mature adult who wants their boss to trust them by giving them more work responsibilities, we constantly want people to trust us. It is gratifying to have people count on us. Many times we become offended when people don’t show much trust in us. We seem to think that trust is automatic. But, to be trusted, you have to be trustworthy. In other words, trust is earned, not given automatically. So the question is, are you trustworthy? Can you truly be trusted?
Well, that all depends on you, really. In order to gain trust and be trustworthy, you have to be a reliable person – a man or woman of their word. And, that’s where many people lose trust. We are constantly given opportunities to gain the trust of those around us. It is what we do with those opportunities that determines whether or not they can end up trusting us with more. If we are unreliable with the little we’ve been given, it would be naïve and unfair of us to expect to be entrusted with more.
So, if you are struggling to have your parents, or your boss, or your spouse trust you, examine yourself and try to see what it is you do with the little trust they’ve given you. If your boss gives you a task, can he trust that you will carry it out as asked? Or does he need to be on your case, constantly calling you and observing you, demanding that you meet your deadline? Can your parents trust that you will meet your current curfew, or do they always have to be worried about you, because you are not home at the time that you’ve said you will be home? Does your husband not trust you with his money, because you do not stick to budget as agreed? It’s a hard truth to face, but if you are being kept on a tight leash where trust is concerned, it is likely that you have not done enough to earn that trust.
So, what then makes a person reliable and therefore trustworthy? Being a person of your word – doing what you said you will do, when you said you will do it. In other words, doing what is expected of you. It's that easy. When you are reliable with little, people will feel comfortable to trust you with more. They will have the assurance that you will do whatever you’ve agreed to do. So, before you become upset with your boss, or your parents for their lack of trust in you, check to see whether or not you have earned their trust. The more faithful you are with the little, the more you will be given.