I witnessed something very interesting last week. I was riding a bike, when all of a sudden I heard this loud thud behind me, then a woman panicking over a crying baby. I stopped to look behind me, even dropped my bike to go and see how I could help her. A few of us (women of course) were gathered around her, watching her fuss over her son, who was still crying. It seemed like the more she kept fussing over him, the more he kept crying. All this while, the father was standing aside, watching this whole scene, which lasted about 5 minutes, with no results.
Finally he couldn’t take it anymore. Very seriously he approached mother and child and immediately removed the mother and put her aside. It was now his turn to deal with things. He called out to the child by name and got him to look at him. With a very stern voice, he asked, ‘Why are you crying?’ Without waiting for an answer, he told him, ‘Wipe your tears now, you’re fine.’ The child stopped crying immediately and did as he was told. The father told the mother to get on the bike and the two rode off again, as if nothing had happened. This scene lasted less than a minute!
This showed me how deceiving our emotions can be. They lie to us and make us believe we have no strength to overcome. They make us look down, cry and worry about problems, instead of looking ahead, seeking a solution. There will be times in our lives when we will fall, problems will come our way, we’ll make mistakes and go through painful experiences. From this situation learn this, the longer you feed your emotions, concentrating on the problem, the longer you remain in that problem. It’s no use calling your friend to talk about it, seeking for comfort from her. The sooner you wipe those tears and stop crying, the sooner you will find the strength in you to move on.
I know getting over a fall from a bicycle is much easier than recovering from divorce, from financial failure, from abuse. But, the principle is the same. You have got to stop looking at the problem and start looking ahead. What awaits you from here onwards? What hope is there in your future? Don’t you deserve better than this? When you ask yourself these hard questions, you will discover this incredible strength that you have inside - survival! We all have this instinct in us. It is just clouded sometimes by emotions. It’s time to let the survivor inside of you come out! Don’t give up on your dreams. No, it’s not too late to fulfil them and live the life you’ve always wanted. Look forward, because God is with you!