Wednesday, 2 January 2013

Using Your U-Factor

A while back, God told me I was too low-key and that it was high time I stopped hiding. My reaction was instant! ‘Moti Bernardino? Low-key?’ (Yes, I sometimes have the odd habit of referring to myself in the third person – only in my head!) Now, anyone who knows me will understand why this message seemed odd to me. Of all the words I could find to describe myself, low-key would not come close to making the list. I am as conspicuous as they come. But, practicing the open-mindedness I wrote about in my previous post, I listened. And, then the penny dropped.

I had a growing, nagging feeling that I wanted to be a role model. Day in and day out I would implore God to use me to reach out to young girls, to make a difference in their lives. And, in that single thought that crossed my mind, which I recognized immediately as the Voice of God, I understood why I wasn’t this role model I wanted to be. I was too low-key! I was too busy hiding myself, being plagued by my insecurities and complexes, which were telling me that I wasn’t good enough to be a role model. I compared myself to others around me and found myself falling short. I saw that what my friends around me were doing was working and I wanted to have the same results as they were having, but there was just one problem with that whole scenario. I didn’t have the same talents they had. I could not do what they were doing.

And, that’s why it is so important that you discover what your talent is. (Find out how from this blog post). Friends, discovering your talent is like discovering your map to greatness. It is the one thing that sets you apart from the rest, the one thing that makes you exceptional, the one thing you are brilliant at, the one thing God has given you to make you shine. Once you find out what your talent is, you will discover your U-Factor – your uniqueness factor.

Now, I have told you that humour is my U-Factor, right? Isn’t it comic to think that that’s my map to greatness? But, there you have it, it is! Not so long ago a young woman approached me, all comfortable around me, like she’d known me for years. The thing is, I didn’t know who she was, but she had been listening to Love, Life and Lipstick, our radio programme on Liberty Radio, every Monday and Friday at 9pm. After telling me how funny I was and how I made her laugh, she went on to share how something we had said on the radio had helped her. She doesn’t know this, but that young woman changed my life. She helped me realize what my U-Factor was and got me to embrace it.

Now, enough about me! Your turn! You too have a U-Factor and you may not be embracing it, because you are not aware of it. Now, you may not be aware of it, because it isn’t conventional. It isn’t usual. Maybe, like mine, it is odd and even comic. But, your U-Factor is what impresses people the most about you and what sets you apart from the rest. Don’t fight it, accept it and use it to draw others to you, be it in business or in your personal life.

About a man who multiplied his talents, this is what the Lord Jesus had to say, “Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!” But, to the one who buried his talent and did not use it, He said, “You wicked, lazy servant… Throw that worthless servant outside, into the darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.”

Need I say more?


Anonymous said...

Carole Basseck said.....

Oh wow Mrs. Moti. I love reading this. And this is very true, I raise both hands and say I too have been like this and sometimes tend to be like this when I am not watching. And is true as I was reading this post I understood that first of all God did not create neither you or I to be the same or have the same talents, otherwise things will be too boring don't you think so? Well I really like reading this post is helpful, and I too will be looking at my Me-Factor seriously because I do not know what it is.

And as for you, I agree of your sense of Humor, very approachable, funny, caring and easy to be around with and above all caring and

Thank you.

Carole Basseck

Anonymous said...

Thank you !!!
It helped me!


Natalie Nwabisa Goni said...

Natalie Goni-Cape Town
Mrs Moti, I really needed this post, because I have be so caught up in my emotions and things that as I ask God what more can I do, I always fall short. There are so many people in the world and realy to make a difference you have to be unique, and now I will be searching for my u-factor, it does not have to be what everyone else expects but what draws others to me.
Yes you are indeed funny.
Thank you.

Anonymous said...

This message has really blessed me its time to plant the good seed

Anonymous said...

Hi Misses Bernardino,

I have been really blessed through your messages.
I would like to send you a private message. I do not know if it will be possible due your busy schedule. However, follow my email address:

Thank you and God bless you always!

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Liliana Ferreira said...

Mrs Moti, it is true you are funny but yet when you speak I always learn something from you!

And its so true I had to do the same thing, I had to look for my Talent and embrace it and use it, I found that I love and im great with languages and when I saw this, I made sure to do something with it, I am now at university doing Language and Linguistics (Spanish and next year mandarin) awsome lol, and I help translate for articles and its amazing how I can reach so many souls through my talent.

Beijinhos xx